A Slice of Seun

Posted on 26th Jun 2025 by Seun Adesoye

I’m an Extreme Extrovert Trying to Become an Ambivert — Send Help

Hello, mic check 1, 2… it’s your favourite prodigal daughter back on the blog 😅.

Did you miss me?

I want to say I’m back purely because I missed you too — but let’s be honest, the title of this post already casted me 🙈. While I did think about this blog often over the years (I really did miss it 🥹), what truly brought me back is my chaotic journey to find balance as someone with chronic extrovert energy.

Yes yes, I’m one of those people: fully outside, all the time, vibes over silence, people over solitude. There’s not an ounce of introversion in my blood…or so I think. Recently though, my mind (and a series of events) has been urging me to try something calmer. Something quieter. So here I am…trying to become an ambivert.

Naturally, I have questions:

What do introverts even do?

In this quest to tap into my buried (very, very buried) introversion, I’ve realized I have no idea how to spend time indoors without losing my mind. Yes, I can do chores, work, sleep, watch movies, create content, read books… but is that all? Is that enough? Introverts, help me out. I’m confused 😭

How do you avoid boredom?

Sometimes, even in certain social settings, I feel bored and want to leave. So how do introverts cope with boredom while staying inside? Do you just… read a different book? Cry in aesthetic lighting? I need answers.

Does staying in all the time make you less fun?

Now, no shade (okay, maybe a little 😅), but I don’t think I’ve ever met an introvert I found fun. Extroverts? We’re loud, spontaneous, unpredictable — sometimes too much, yes. But introverts? The stimulation levels are… missing. Or maybe I’m just broken and addicted to chaos 😅?

What I’m Realizing So Far:

Despite the roast, I promise this post isn’t an introvert hit piece 😭, writing this helped me understand a few things:

The “simple” things introverts do are enough for them. They don’t need constant external stimulation. As someone with big energy, maybe I need to learn how to exist with less without feeling like something’s missing.
When they do feel bored, they don’t spiral. They take a walk. Visit one friend. Sit in silence. It’s not about being antisocial, it’s about staying low energy without feeling low.

Okay, I still haven’t cracked the “fun” part. I’m working on it. Y’all are on your own with that one 💀

Writing this made me feel really gooood which is wild, because I forgot that writing is my one true introverted activity. My escape. My brain dump. My solo party.

So yeah… I guess I’ve missed this.

And if you’ve ever struggled to find your balance between being everywhere and being at peace, maybe you’ll relate too.

Let me know: Are you an extrovert trying to chill? An introvert trying to be louder? Or an ambivert who’s figured it all out? I want to know how you do it.

Till next time,
xoxo,
Seun

Posted on 6th May 20206th May 2020 by Seun Adesoye · 8 Comments

Best photo editing apps for iPhone and Android

Photo editing apps? What must I have been messing with, right 😂?

Okay, so I took some random pictures and I wanted to post them on Instagram but I couldn’t? Why? Because of facial hair 😭. I struggle with a stubble all the time because I inherited it; I really don’t know why I couldn’t pick hips but nooo, it’s hair.

I really didn’t want to throw the pictures away so I thought ‘How about I edit them?’ and then I went on a search for the best photo editing apps (in the hopes I’d find one that’d remove my beard 😭). So here, I came up with this list of four photo editing apps I tried:

1. Airbrush: I just want to say that I love this app like a lot. It’s very easy to use and it focuses on the details in a picture: you could lighten your lips, make your eyes less red, blur your background, name it. The attention to detail is superb but…

Of course there’s always a but 😂. Most of these options don’t come cheap. Of course you have access to some things on the free version but to get the best of the app, you have to use Airbrush Black. It’s basically the paid version where you get access to everything the app has to offer.

On iPhone, it costs 2,500 naira per month and 10,500 naira for a year. You get seven days free though if you want to test it out but if you just need slight editing, you’re good to go. Luckily, it edited my beard 🥰.

Pros: Easy to use and a wonderful editor to play with.

Cons: You have to pay to use all the tools.

After-airbrush — The airbrush edited picture

2. Snapseed: This photo editing app owned by Google is next on my list. Though it’s not easy to navigate as a beginner, everything about it is free and you don’t need to pay for any extra tools.

It’d probably be easier for someone with knowledge of photography terms to use but you could still get a nicely edited picture from it. Also, it saves your edits so you could use the same exact thing again instead of starting over. There’s also a ‘Tutorial’ option in the app to help understand it a bit more as well. Unfortunately, it couldn’t remove my stubble 🥺.

Pros: Access to all the tools without paying.

Cons: Hard to navigate as a beginner.

3 . Facetune 2: I don’t know what the original Facetune is about but I know you have to pay 1,400 naira for it. This one though is free. It’s really similar to Airbrush and even pays EVEN more attention to details; you can adjust your eyes, nose and mouth to the sizes you want but…

But of course, you have to pay for it. It’s called Facetune VIP and you pay 1,075 naira per month and 12,900 naira annually on iPhone. So much money mehn.

Also, every time I would try to use a free tool, it wouldn’t work until I used a paid one and I’m not having none of that. So, I have no picture to display for it.

Pros: Fine tuned attention to detail; it can change you, hehe.

Cons: Seems like you have to pay for it.

4. VSCO: I read good things about this photo editing app so I thought it was going to be amazing but when I downloaded it, I realized it’s a classic editor. It has quite a number of filters/presets and the regular tools like exposure, contrast and the likes.

There are also a few tools that can be accessed when you subscribe for the VSCO membership.

Pros: Easy to use for quick editing.

Cons: Nothing too in-depth, just a classic editor.

Honourary mention goes to all Adobe products. They’re amazing and though they might seem free at first, they aren’t at all so I can’t even test them.

Special mention goes to Instasize. I only use it to adjust my pictures to size for Instagram but it has editing abilities, for video and pictures though it’s nothing too advanced.

So, tell me, what photo editing apps have you tried? Are there any you can recommend to me? Talk to meee. Thanks 😊.

Also, follow on me on Instagram – cute_seun. Thanks 💕.

Posted on 21st Apr 2020 by Seun Adesoye · 11 Comments

Short stories by Nissi

Hiii babiesss.

It’s been a long and pretty boring isolation and somehow, I seem to have lost my creativity somewhere and somehow, so I lent some from my baby girl, Nissi Utho 😌.

This is a collection of some of her short stories, sad but beautiful. I hope you like them 😊.

Happiness

“Happiness? What’s that?” she scoffs, tilting her head to the side.
“You’ve never felt it? That feeling, from your head to your toes, a lightness that you can’t shake, a little bud that blossoms and fills your whole body with peace.”
She stared blankly at me.
“I have. It never lasts long. I always fall right back into the darkness, the one I always try to fight. I have a feeling it’s tied to my very soul; I’m made of pain. Look at me. My scars mar me from my head to my feet and I drag the chains that hold me down all over the place. You can tell that I’m weighed down by it. I’m one with it, I am darkness and darkness is me. I feel nothing and nothing feels me. I am empty. And even if I do feel this happiness, it will never stay because I am broken. Beautiful things do not grow in broken places.”

Ashes

Ashes. I often think about the process involved with the formation of ashes. First, you have to set fire to something. You set fire to my body, my heart, my soul. I was burning for you. Aflame with love and all the happiness you gave me. I glowed from the embers that burnt deep within me, making me shine and radiate my brightness on everything around. After the fire is lit, the matter must burn. And boy, did I burn. I twisted and writhed under the heat of your touch, letting it caress me and cuddle me until it was too late and I realised that you had stripped me of myself and left nothing. I watched as you flung me into the furnace and stood by grimly as my heart and my body and soul were consumed by the anguish you left them in, destroyed by the memories you left behind, ruined by the wicked words and your dismal goodbye. Now, I am ash and ash is me. We are one, our unity is peaceful and we fade together, letting the smoke tell the story of what we once were.

Black and blue

My lover was an artist. He painted my eyes open with the colours of the morning each day; soft shades of blue, pastels and light hues. Each time he touched my skin, he would leave the scent of his turpentine and nicotine stained hands on my body, making me whatever colour he wanted me to be. Soft strokes and hard nights, my lover took his time to make sure I was always his masterpiece.

My lover was an artist. Once the sun went down, the colours took on another shade. Black bruises, old scars that littered my skin like the stars in the night sky and deep, deep blue. He would paint me to perfection with his fists until I begged for mercy, he would pound into my soft flesh like I was nothing and every night, I wept and wished to die. By morning, my soul bled with the rising sun and my lover would wake me up with love and kisses from his side of the world.

My lover was an artist. He painted me a beautiful shade of melancholy. Depressed is my colour now and for him, I’ll wear it with pride.

Oshea💫

Please leave a comment or/and like this post if you appreciate her because I know I do a lot lot. Thank youuu 💕.

Posted on 21st Aug 202521st Aug 2025 by Seun Adesoye

Why Do People Prey on the Weak?

What is it about human nature that makes some people prey on the vulnerable?

It’s a question I’ve asked myself more times than I can count. I understand the idea of “survival of the fittest,” but why does that instinct spill into situations that have nothing to do with survival? From where I stand, it often comes down to one thing — a power play. People try to feel strong by taking advantage of someone they think can’t fight back.

But is that really strength if you can’t match up against someone your own size?

Let me share two recent situations that got me thinking.

The first was in a taxi. I was half-asleep in the back seat when I heard shouts of “Stop, stop!” I opened my eyes and found out that he had mistakenly taken a one-way route and had been stopped by some law enforcement agents. From his explanation, it was clearly an honest mistake. But the people who stopped him weren’t interested in hearing that. They pressured him until they took his car to their base and once you get there, we all know you’re paying through your nose. I couldn’t stay to see the end of it because I was running late, but it was obvious they had pegged him as someone they could easily exploit. I’m certain that if it had been a more “street-smart” person, the outcome would have been different.

The second happened when I went to blend peppers at an elderly woman’s shop because my mum wanted smooth stew. The day before, she’d told my mum a specific price. But after blending the peppers, she suddenly changed it. I pushed back and reminded her of the agreed amount, and only then did she pretend to be surprised and agree to it. Why the sudden change? Most likely because I look younger than I am, and she assumed she could get away with it.

Both situations had one thing I already stated in the second paragraph: a power play. And as someone who often gets mistaken for being younger, I’ve been on the receiving end of these little “tests” many times. Have some people succeeded in taking advantage of me? Yes. Have I learned from it? Definitely. But the lingering question remains — why does this happen at all?

Does this kind of behavior exist to make the weak stronger? To make the strong even stronger? Or is it just a reflection of a darker side of human nature?

I don’t have the answer. But I do know that human behavior fascinates me and that’s why I sit down to write pieces like this.

Till next time,
Yours in vulnerability,
Seun

Posted on 19th Jul 2025 by Seun Adesoye

How Romance Novels Ruined My Love Life (And What I’ve Learned Since)

I’m currently reading a romance novel, and I can confidently say: romance novels ruined my life.

How could a book about love ruin someone’s life? Let me explain.

Growing Up With Romance Novels

As a preteen and teenager, I devoured romance novels. I read them so much that I truly believed love would play out like this:

I’d meet someone.
He’d awaken feelings in me no one else ever had.
Slowly but surely (or sometimes pretty abruptly), I’d fall deeply in love.

Lies. All lies.

Did it ever play out like that? Once or twice, maybe. Did I think those moments would lead to a happily ever after? Absolutely. Did they? Absolutely not.

When Reality Didn’t Match Fiction

In real life, I’ve been in relationships (and situationships) where partners turned out to be either horrible, painfully non-committed, or both.

(If you’re one of those partners reading this, feel free to pick your poison.)

Eventually, I made a mental note to avoid romance novels entirely—except for the Bridgerton books, because… I couldn’t resist 🌚.

Why? Because those novels made me see men in a light they’ve never seen me.

Wait…maybe that’s too harsh. Let me rephrase: they made me see the men I wanted in a light they never saw me.

To be fair, I’ve met sweet, amazing men who would’ve done anything to keep me. But, unfortunately, I didn’t feel the click.

The Click That Never Clicked

The click? Yes. That magical moment when romance characters just know: “This is my person.”

I only ever felt that click with men who decided to hurt me—frankly because they could.

So here are the questions I keep circling back to:

Am I the problem?
Or did romance novels romanticize the click so much that without it, I can’t feel satisfied in real life?

These are questions I should probably explore with a therapist. Unfortunately… I don’t have one 💀.

Growing Out of The Fantasy

While reading my current romance novel, I caught myself rolling my eyes at lines that once made me swoon. Oh, you foolish Seun.

At least there’s one small victory here: I’ve grown.

Think piece aside, I’m off to finish my happily-ever-after romance. Because I must finish it. Hehe.

Until next time,
Yours in romance,
Seun.

Posted on 2nd Jul 20252nd Jul 2025 by Seun Adesoye

Parents Are Just Humans Too

One sentence from my mum ruined my mood and two more reminded me she’s human too.

That’s the best way I can describe what happened recently.

I was having a conversation with my mum when she made a comment about me not doing something well. It stung. I was upset and for two reasons:

It wasn’t the first time she had said something like that. She had made a similar remark not long before, just about something else.
This is my mum. Doesn’t she know how discouraging her words can be?

I walked away, fuming. But as I replayed her words in my head, something unexpected happened — I pictured her lovely grey eyes (yes, she does have lovely grey eyes) looking at me, filled with concern. And in that moment, I thawed a little.

She’s human too.

We Often Forget: Parents Are Not Superhuman

Sometimes we forget that our parents are regular people — people with emotions, frustrations, insecurities, and imperfections. We expect them to say the right things, do the right things, and never disappoint us. Why? Because they’re parents. Because they raised us. Because we grew up seeing them as providers, protectors, and problem-solvers.

But the truth is, they’re just as human as we are and this simple mindset shift can change your entire parent-child relationship dynamic.

They make mistakes. They react emotionally. They say things they might not mean. And they’re still growing, still figuring things out just like we are. Just like you are. Just like I am.

The Shift: Seeing My Mum as a Person First

I’ve had this realization before, but this time it hit differently. I made a conscious decision to not just see my mum as my mum, but as a woman. A full human being with her own story, triggers, joys, and wounds. Someone who doesn’t have it all figured out.

Is it still hard? Absolutely. Especially when she says something that gets under my skin. But more and more, I catch myself. I pause. And I try again. Because I want to love her fully. Not just in the role of a mother, but in the reality of her personhood.

This is what emotional maturity in family dynamics really looks like: being aware of the flaws and still choosing compassion.

If You’ve Felt This Too…

If you’re reading this and you’ve ever felt like your parent doesn’t understand you or has said something hurtful, you’re not alone. It’s one of the most confusing parts of growing up: realizing your parents aren’t perfect, and maybe never were.

But a little bit of awareness goes a long way.
It softens tension. It builds compassion.
It strengthens even the most strained relationships over time.

So if you’re a puny little birthed human (like me) trying to navigate this complex thing called family, just know: A little consciousness goes a long way — for both sides.

Thanks for reading and see you in the next post.
Xoxo,
Seun

Posted on 29th Feb 202029th Feb 2020 by Seun Adesoye · 11 Comments

The Five Love Languages

Hi everyone. This post was supposed to come right before Valentine’s Day but my phone decided to go bad. But here it is though 😊!

So a while ago, I discovered there are these things called the five love languages and these languages are ways in which partners in a relationship show their feelings. It was made popular by this guy named Gary Chapman when he wrote the book ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’ in 1995.

I actually found out about it when someone really close to me suggested I take the test (if you want to take the test, click here) and I was surprised at what my top 3 love languages were. Funny enough, the test was actually pretty accurate 😌. Sooo, lemme tell you what they are:

1. Receiving gifts: At first when I saw this, I thought, ‘Won’t this make me seem like a good digger 😅?’ but apparently that’s not it at all. Some people see gifts as acts of love from their partners and according to Gary Chapman, people who like receiving gifts as acts of love usually give gifts as well.

Note: This theory of his doesn’t only work for the receiving gifts love language but for all of them: a person who values a particular love language usually shows the same love language. So if you’re someone who really likes giving and receiving gifts, this is probably one of your topmost love languages.

Warning when predicting someone: A good number of people will squander you with gifts to either win your love, fix a wrongdoing (coughs in cheating) or just to show off and not because they genuinely care. So watch out if the gifts only come during a certain period because that’s not a love language, that’s a ploy.

2. Quality time: If you’re someone who likes to spend time with your partner, this is your love language. You’re probably someone who likes going out with their partners to the movies, events, clubs, anything really. You probably like things that can be considered a couple activity where you can bond with your partner. This is a language that ranked really high on my test because I enjoy spending quality time; if I’m not spending time with you, what am I even doing with you tbh 💁🏼‍♀️?

3. Words of affirmation: This love language is for those people who like to be reassured. It actually reminds me of this Mushy relationships 👅 post I wrote once. You probably like to hear things like ‘I love you’, ‘You’re special’, ‘I love your food’, those sorta things. Just hearing these words of affirmation reassures you that the love is real. If this is your love language, not hearing these things might make you feel like your partner doesn’t value you as much because if they did, they’d say it, right?

Warning when predicting someone: Some people spew the sweetest things but are demons inside so you have to be careful with this one. You have to be sure these words corroborate their actions…which leads me to the next love language.

4. Acts of service: The acts of service love language is for those people who like being helped and value people who help. You want to hear things like ‘Let me help you with that’ or ‘Let me handle that’. You want your partner to help you with things to show that they care simply because if you really love me, you’d want to help me out, yes? This actually ranked high on my test probably because I’m lazy and I really enjoy people doing things for me, 😌.

5. Physical touch: Now this one is for the PDA lovers. You want kisses, hugs, hand holding and sex to show how much you love a person. It’d mean a lot to you if you’re out with your partner and they decided to just hold your hand out of the blue. Little touches while with your partner means a lot to you. This is a case of ‘If you really love me, you should definitely love to touch me’.

Warning yet again 😂: A loooot of people will offer you plenty sex yet won’t be in love with you. So you have to be careful with this one and watch how they treat you in public compared to how they treat you in private . Then you’ll get your answer.

And that’s it, folks! Looking at these 5 love languages, I’m sure at some point you connected with one of these languages and you’re welcome. Love languages differ from person to person and you may have one or more love languages with varying degrees, depending on the person.

It’s actually really important to find out what your partner’s love language because it makes it easier to understand your partner and how to love and treat them. I also personally feel that it’d make a relationship last longer and become stronger because understanding one’s partner is really essential. Everyone has at least one so just look a little deeper and figure it out.

The month of love is over now but it comes every year so you definitely definitely need this post at some point. Enjoy!

Posted on 27th Dec 201927th Dec 2019 by Seun Adesoye · 10 Comments

The Benefits of Reading

I used to be a very avid reader when I was younger because novels were my thing, then I grew older and in came social media and out went the books 😅.

Reading itself is actually pretty underrated. There are a number of benefits of reading but it’s usually easy to ignore when there’s the internet, social media and all the other things that don’t involve you picking up a book.

So although, it might seem old-fashioned to talk about the benefits of reading because really, how many people still read books? I’m going to prove that reading has benefits that we choose to ignore.

Here are my top five benefits:

1. Better vocabulary:

Remember I said I used to be an avid reader? Because of this, my vocabulary improved immensely. I had to learn the habit of looking up words I didn’t recognize in the dictionary, although it took me a while to learn it because breaking away from a good book was so hard 😭.

I didn’t even realise it was my constant reading that enabled me to speak all my grammar until I began noticing that my vocabulary was deteriorating. Words that I used to know escaped me and I wondered if there was something wrong with my head until I realised why. I had stopped reading books so really, where was I supposed to learn new grammar?

You might actually not realise your grammar is better but it is because you’re learning.

2. Exercises your brain:

Does the brain need exercise? You wonder. Well, yes. Just like the body needs exercise, so does the brain. When you don’t exercise, you lose your form and become less fit; the same thing goes for your brain. If you don’t actively try to exercise your brain, time and time again, you’ll begin to forget things you’ve learnt and slowly become dimmer and dimmer 🙃. Why? Your brain’s unfit: no exercise. You don’t need to solve hard math to exercise your brain, just read a book.

3. Increases your knowledge:

The more you read, the more you know and it is said that knowledge is power so why not? Although some books might be works of fiction, there are a couple of things you could learn from them; I know I have. Maybe not in terms of locations (they make those ones up usually, heh) but in terms of mannerisms, food, culture, you get the drift. It helps to know stuff so you don’t feel like an airhead when an intellectual conversation is going on. Nobody likes a smart ass but you can also stylishly flaunt your knowledge 🙃.

4. Entertainment:

I know I’ve been talking about reading a lot and it isn’t fun for everyone but books can be quite entertaining especially if you have a good imagination. When I read, I usually can picture everything that’s happening as I read; it’s almost like I can see it and I’m there in real-time. This probably doesn’t happen to everyone but I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels like this when they read a book.

I’m trying to get myself to read again so to force myself, when my data finishes, I don’t subscribe immediately but instead, immerse myself in a book, online or hardcover. When I do subscribe, I usually feel like a new creature 😌.

So yes, movies, TV shows, and TV series might be entertaining but books are an old-fashioned way of entertainment; they’re old but gold.

5. Boosts your creativity:

Reading actually boosts creativity because going back to the point above, if you can picture yourself as part of the scene in a book, you can definitely picture yourself doing a couple other things and actually get ideas. I once asked someone who I personally consider extremely creative how she gets her wonderful ideas and her reply was that she reads.

She reads everything from pop culture blogs to news to books; she just loves to read and this, in turn, helps her to be creative. Since she told me that, I’ve actually been trying as much as possible to read practically everything I see because I also want to be full of creativity. Who wouldn’t really?

There are more benefits of reading, of course but these are my top five because I can relate.

It can be really hard to just pick up a book to read but you could try with a sentence a day and then, a paragraph, a page, a chapter and before you know it, you’re reading an entire book.

Although I talked about reading books a lot, reading isn’t specific to books; you can read anything you like. You can read newspapers, magazines, e-books, poems, blogs, online novels, anything. Just read. Because in the long run, it’s really for your benefit.

Let’s revive the reading culture again together 😊🤸🏼‍♀️!

Posted on 2nd Nov 20193rd Nov 2019 by Seun Adesoye · 10 Comments

Friends with benefits

Hullo babiess. So friends with benefits eh? I know some of you guys are reading this because you think I’m going to share some vivid experience, eeyah 😂.

What are friends with benefits? It’s pretty direct stuff: it’s two friends deciding to add sexual benefits to their friendship. It’s simple and yet so complex at the same time.

It’s actually a somewhat controversial topic because people get confused about whether it’s a good idea or not. But frankly though, a lot of people are in these relationships these days.

Let’s talk about the pros and cons of having a friends with benefits relationship, yes?

PROS
1. Intimacy whenever you want it: When I say intimacy, I’m not talking ‘I love you so much, I want to know you to the depths of your soul’, I’m talking about getting what you want sexually without stressing. Your partner is only one call away and you don’t need to start worrying about any extra stuff, unlike if you’re in a relationship. For example, if you need to scratch your itch 😂, you can pretty much just call them up and they’d be down. Easy stuff 👌🏼.

2. Freedom: In a friends with benefits relationship, you’re freeeee like a bird🤸🏼‍♀️ ! You’re not attached to anybody relationship or anything wise and you don’t owe your partner anything; you guys are just friends who chose to get involved so no jealousy and no excess emotions. If you decide to have another friend with benefits or begin an actual relationship, you’re free to because you’re single like a pringle.

3. Friendship and sexual satisfaction: This is two for the price of one, hehe. You have both friendship and sexual satisfaction in one relationship. Sweet eh? You can call up your friend to be a friend and you can also call them up for the benefits orrr you can just do both 😌.

CONS
1. You catch feelings: This frankly is the biggest problem with friends with benefits’ relationships: someone usually catches feelings. I’m not saying everyone does but a good majority of people in these types of relationships usually just fall in feelings after some time. So yeah, this type of relationship might not be great when you begin to catch feelings. Especially with the jealousy, oh the jealousy that you have no right to feel mehn.

And the most painful part, with or without feelings, your partner owes you nothing, nada, zilch, zero.

2. Disrespect: A friends with benefits breeds disrespect, truly. Only a small percentage of people can handle this relationship with maturity, boundaries and respect and it’s hard to find because honestly, most people don’t have sense. When something goes wrong in your friendship, you’ll get insulted and dragged around like a mop just because sex. With an immature person, regret is certainly certain.

3. Friendship gets ruined: There usually comes a time where a friends with benefits relationship will become about just the sex if feelings don’t interfere first, of course. This sucks especially when you’re trying to be a friend to your friend but they’re just thinking about sex. A friends with benefits relationship then becomes a purely sexual relationship which of course won’t sit well with one partner which is usually the girl if we’re being honest. And voila, the beginning of the end.

4. Illusion of comfort: It’s super easy to get comfortable in a friends with benefits relationship. You think ‘Oh I have a friend in this person and we have great sexual energy. I don’t need anyone else’ but this thought is deceptive. Very deceptive. If you’ve had this thought recently and you’re in a friends with benefits relationship, shut it out. Your partner owes you nothing so you really have no right to feel this comfort. This is harsh but true and you have to get it into. your. head.

5. STDs: Lool, this isn’t a joke oh. Your partner could have another partner and some of these STDs don’t show on the face. So one day you’re clean, the next day you’re seriously scratching your genitals.

The most annoying part about it is it’s really your business because your partner still doesn’t owe you anything, once again.

Looking at the pros and cons, it might be a little hard to decide if being in a friends with benefits relationship is a good choice (or not 🌚). I have tried to be as equal as possible in telling you the pros and cons of being in a friend with benefits relationship so it’your choice. To be or not to be?

Till my next blog post, babies 😊.

Posted on 8th Oct 20198th Oct 2019 by Seun Adesoye · 15 Comments

Burgers ‘n’ Shakes

Have you ever heard of a cute little place called Burgers ‘n’ Shakes? If you haven’t, you’ve heard it from me now and you’re welcome 😊.

Hi guys. I know it’s been ages I posted anything but I’m going to try to be more consistent with my blog posts though I can’t really promise anything 😅.

So back to the topiccc of discussion: Burgers’n’Shakes 😊. First, a little background story: I had my first burger about 3 months ago and I was determined to find the best burger. Why? I was told the one I had was trash though it tasted nice to me. I somehow discovered ‘Burgers’n’Shakes on Google maps and I was determined to try it because if a place had burgers in its name, they must sell excellent burgers. So voila, I landed there with two of my favourite people.

Burgers’n’Shakes is this extremely cute little burger restaurant located in Adeniran Ogunsanya. It’s opposite Polaris bank which is two buildings away from Adeniran Ogunsanya shopping mall, popularly known as ShopRite. I had honestly never noticed it before till I found it so it might be easy to miss.

When I got inside, the first thought that occured to me was ‘Wow, it’s pretty small but oh my God, it’s so cute 😭😭’. There were only two people inside so it was really chill; I liked the ambience but I really don’t know how it’d be when it’s full 😅.

Interior-burgers-n-shakes — I found a place with my features 😌

We sat down and got the menu and perused (such a funny word, hehe) it and I feel their prices are pretty reasonable. I got the combo meal and a milkshake because I’m still not sure I like smoothies (why aren’t they smooth? I don’t get it 😭) and I hadn’t had a milkshake before.

Burgers-n-shakes-burgers-and-shakes — Burgers’n’shakes burger and shake 😂

After 30 minutes of waiting, we got our orders. The fries were lacking in crispiness, both the sweet potatoes and the Irish but somehow, it was still sweet 🤔. The milkshake was really delicious 👅: it was extremely creamy and had a hint of coffee though I wonder why we weren’t asked before the coffee was added 🤨. The chicken was supposed to be wings but they had no wings so we got chicken thighs (which I even prefer, tee hee 😌) and it was actually quite nice though tiny. I wanted more 😭. Also I didn’t see any coleslaw, sly people 😒.

Now for the burger which should be their selling point. The burger was a little more than average, like a 7 over 10. I liked it but some ingredients were lacking and the cheese was really really thin; at first I thought I didn’t have any sef 😅.

One of my favourite people got the mega burger and though it was a mouthful (I know ‘cos I took a bite 😌), was still a little lacking as well. Like I don’t eat leaves but I didn’t see any lettuce 🌚.

So would I recommend Burgers’n’Shakes? Yes, I would. It’s really cute and cute things are adorable plus it’s affordable. They’re also available on Jumia foods so you can order in if you’re a lazy bum like me, hehe.

Until my next blog post, bye babies 😊.